GLR: http://misterwizard.podomatic.com/entry/2010-11-15T12_20_08-08_00
Rundown: Today we talk about the kinds of myths and advice for women being told by dating sites. Dave the Drummer recaps his experiences using the internet rsquo;s advice on dating, and we discuss the fun of being friends with your ex…that rsquo;s sarcasm by the way folks. All that and a little bit more? On this week rsquo;s GLR.
What rsquo;s up?
Topic 1: The Three Big Relationship Myths according to e-harmony.com
1. Relationship Myth #1: Giving = Getting
Apparently giving and giving to a man is not the way to his heart, but allowing him to give to you. You want a man to love you? Let him give first, and don rsquo;t play all your cards right from the very start. They say that relationship is give and take, but I think that this works both ways, for men and women, not just women. Guys who give too early and too often can be taken advantage of. I think its less likely if the woman does it.
2. Exclusivity Leads to Commitment and Marriage
I agree with this myth as well as the advice given. They say that just because you rsquo;re dating doesn rsquo;t automatically lead to exclusivity. You rsquo;re not a committed couple just because you rsquo;re dating, you rsquo;re dating for a reason. Its like trying on a pair of shoes to make sure they fit right, and that rsquo;s what dating is. You don rsquo;t just assume that because you two dig each other it means monogamy than marriage. Until that gets talked about or he gets on one knee, you both should keep the options open, unless you both agree and are both in the same place and find that you both are the one rsquo;s for each other.
3. Showing a Man Your Feelings Will Scare Him Away
Another homerun from e-harmony when they state that emotions don rsquo;t scare men away, its the drama. Men are emotional beings, we have feelings too. We don rsquo;t like being alone, we don rsquo;t like the thought of losing someone we love. We care, we are affectionate, we just don rsquo;t show it as often as we could. But that rsquo;s part of the ldquo;fun rdquo;. Let me quote the page, ldquo;When you can embrace your feelings and communicate them to a man in plain language and in a way that does not blame or criticize him, a man will breathe a sign of relief. At last he has met a woman who can relate to him without letting her emotions control her! rdquo; I couldn rsquo;t have said it better myself. We are a fan of emotion, because we feel it ourselves, but we rsquo;re more blunt about it, more straightforward, and we want to fix things. So if you just let us know how you feel, in plain English, and that you want to find a solution, we rsquo;re down for that for sure.
For more info check out:
http://advice.eharmony.com/article/three-big-relationship-myths.html
Topic 2: Dave talks about his experiences using dating advice from the internet.
This weeks tips from Jessica Claire, of Expert Village and New York Dating Coach, which will be hammered into your head if you watch the playlist on YouTube.
How to meet a chick? Jessica recommends somewhere low key, like a coffee shop, or a book store. Instead, I got the great idea to go to a bar, because this is small town Ireland and the only people in the local bookstore are old ladies looking at Mills Boone. I got drunk, yadda yadda.
How do you know when to approach a lady? Not at work, says Jessica Claire, a New York Dating Coach of New York Dating Coach, or when she rsquo;s with another guy. She also says avoid large groups of girls. At what point does a group become large? Is four a large group? I ended up at a birthday party for an older lady, and attempted to work my new found skills on a chick there.
How do you get a girls attention? Jessica Claire says guys are possibly retarded, which is fair enough. Be coy at first, then talk for a little bit, a VERY little bit, then walk away. If you say something totally awesome, she rsquo;ll remember you, and try to find you for the rest off the night.
Update on my Interweb Dating so far.
Tip of the Week:
Should you stay friends with your exes? Some say, that rsquo;s the sign of a mature and healthy relationship, and I think you rsquo;re just kidding yourself. I believe most people stay friends with their exes because they hope that they can have a n f-buddy or have some delusion that they rsquo;ll be able to hook up with them again. Why would anyone want to stay with someone whom they rsquo;ve been with? You have to see them move on, and maybe you rsquo;re not quite over them yet. Or they have to see you move on and they rsquo;re not over it yet. That rsquo;s just drama and heartache waiting to happen.
Wrapup:
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