We’re not perfect people, we all have a bunch of flaws, and hopefully we know about it. One of the first things we need to do, before we can even remotely find some kind of happiness is to be happy with who we are, or at the very least, not hate who we are. While going through the ups and downs of relationships, I found myself hating who I was. I thought I was the big cause for things failing in my marriage or in other aspects of my life. Now, yes, maybe I contributed to those, and maybe you’re contributing to what’s wrong in your life, but you shouldn’t hate yourself. Instead, we’ll do something COMPLETELY different.
Take it or leave it, but you’re going to have to own up to the problems you cause. In other words, we’re always a work in progress. No one is flippin’ perfect! Even the “professionals” aren’t perfect and can give some pretty bad advice. Because they’re not you, and sometimes the only person who knows how to solve your problems are you. So, what’s making your life a living hell? Is it your girl or guy? Is it you being a wuss, or you complaining, or you being lazy? What is it that’s making you miserable? When you find that out, you can have an idea of how to make it better, or at least make it go away.
So stop hating on yourself and do something about it. Change your situation. Its not going to be easy, but you need to find it in yourself to want to do something about it. Otherwise, you’ll always have the screwed up life. I thought I was going to be miserable forever after being divorced. I thought I was never going to be happy again, because I thought my ex-wife was my life. I knew what I did wrong in the relationship, and when I owned it, and made a change, I found out that she was a BIG problem in it as well. And she wasn’t getting any better. She still has a lot of issues, and a lot of problems, but I feel better about myself and what I’m going through because I was able to change, and able to get out of it.
Get that therapy, that help, that whatever you need to motivate you to become better and not hate yourself. You’re TECHNICALLY, supposed to love yourself, but even I know that’s kind of a tall order for some people. So start off, just disliking things instead of hating things, then liking your new you, and then…if you’re so bold, you can love you for you! Then, that’s when you’ll be ready to get back on the horse, hook up, date, whatever. You’ll have the confidence, and hopefully with that, the charisma, to get whatever you’re looking for.
I hate to be cliche, but if you want to get the girl or the guy, you got to get out of the funk.