I think we as human beings are fearful creatures in general. I am reminded of this every timea bug jumps out of nowhere and I jump. But I think what people are most scared of, are other people. There’s always that fear of rejection, or getting hurt, or of learning something you didn’t want to know. So how do you handle those feelings? You can’t avoid people forever. But you can always take it one step at a time.
Gentlemen, for those of you who are shy, you CANNOT wait for a woman to show any interest back. You need to attack, ask her out, tell her she’s pretty, something! It doesn’t matter if you think she’s out of your league, or if you think she’s taken. If you don’t do something, you’ll never know, and you’ll kick yourself.
Ladies! It is not the 1800’s. If you like a guy, PLEASE ask him out. Its not a blow to our ego, or our masculinity, and as a matter of fact, guys are DENSE, for the most part. We don’t always get your signs, we can’t read your minds. We can only do so much, and there’s already a lot on our shoulders in relationships as it is. So can you ladies, please give us a break.
Finally, women (and some guys) STOP sending mix signals. If you’re not interested in someone, say it to their face, and treat them like you’re not interested in them. Don’t flirt with them, tell them you’re not interested, and then flirt again. It causes huge headaches, and like I said, its already tough enough as it is.
So in conclusion? Shy guys, ask her out and compliment her, because the worst she can say is no, and you can (try) to move on. Also, girls, just tell the guy you’re into him, flirt with him, and make it obvious. We are mostly adults and we’re too old for games.