Welcome to the Online Friend Simulator. Because everyone could use a friend, even online. I’m Francis aka The Other Guy.
In this episode, I talk about LA Comic Con and experiencing the con solo. I also talk about being a larger person, about my cool Darkwing Duck T-shirt, and how nice people are nice. It’s a weird one this week, but you know what? That’s all right. You can tell me how terrible it is, or how much you like it in the comments below.
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Intro Music By: Kevin McLeod – Acid Jazz
Francis,
I heard what you have to say about being infatuated with women who give you compliments. I have to say I understand that all too well because I do get infatuated with women who treat me well, it’s a wonderful thing to have happen.
In many cases….I have developed many deep, intellectual, and platonic relationships with many women because they treated me with respect and dignity & I didn’t feel threatened by them in the slightest. Because of this, I have seen many aspects of people that I see in the individual and it gives me some hope that if I see this aspect in this platonic relationship, then there’s a chance that I could find the same thing in a potential mate. If not, then I still respect them because I have found an aspect that I deeply admire.
Keep in mind, many of those friendships were done online but I still value them none the less.
I think back to my teenage years….30yrs ago. I didn’t deal with rejection very well & I went from a very socially outgoing child to one that was very scared to even be looked at. It took me many years to love myself and figure out my personality….even to this day at 44 I’m STILL figuring it all out & I probably will for the rest of my life.
You DO have to be careful though, in your infatuations you can get carried away with the feeling and read into something that may not be there in the 1st place. This can cause a sense of unwanted grief & maybe even a feeling of “rejection”.
This is the main reason that I stress the idea of self confidence and humility.
Learn that some communication can be “small talk”, some “intellectual”, some even “toxic”.
Learn how to accept & give sincere and genuine compliments. Don’t think someone’s niceness as a way to flirt with you. If your not sure, be candid & ask: “Hey, are you flirting with me? Are you just being nice? Do you mind if I ask of your intentions with your interactions with me?”
In most cases, most people will be candid back and be very honest with you, because you asked and they don’t want to make the situation any more uncomfortable or confusing to you than it already is.
I hope this helps!
Anthony Davis
Listersmate