Rundown: On today rsquo;s show, we rsquo;ll be talking about how we love at the drop of the hat, and Dave will give us a bit of an intro to the art of dating in the 21st century, and our weekly advice…will be about stress.
What rsquo;s up? My new fascination with Doctor Who. How I may have been wrong that pretty girls know they rsquo;re pretty. Also witnessed a potential fight.
Topic1: The new science of falling in love. According to research done by Syracruse University, people actually fall in love fairly quickly. The study shows that it only takes 1/5th of a second to get all those parts of your brain going to simulate that chemical process of love. It probably shouldn rsquo;t be called love, because its more infatuation. Its such a quick reaction, that its just appeal to them in the here and now than a real in depth look at how you feel about each other.
Topic 2: Unnamed project intro, or Guide To Getting Into A Relationship.
Run down ~ Relationship advice put into practice, from online and magazine articles, so on.
The start is online dating.
Your own profile:
Be honest about yourself, TO A POINT. Do be truthful about your weight, yadda yadda, do not tell them you own over 400 moist towel packets from around the world. They don rsquo;t gotta know that yet.
Are you funny? Don rsquo;t say it, show it. Make your profile funny without putting yourself down.
Like movies, or music, or art? Give a short list of your favourites, maybe even say why. Just saying ldquo;I like movies rdquo; is not enough. They could like movies, too, and when you take them to see the new Jackie Chan action, she rsquo;ll be pissed she didn rsquo;t see any sign of Owen Wilson being wacky or whatever. It saves you in the long run.
Have a talent? Let them know! If you rsquo;re totally useless and just sit on your ass all day, say you ldquo;Enjoy relaxing. rdquo; It ain rsquo;t lying!
What do you look for in a significant other? Best tip is to not mention physical things first, if at all. We all have a ldquo;Type rdquo;, but mention non-physical traits first, it makes you look less shallow. If you like blondes, but really don rsquo;t mind either way, don rsquo;t say ldquo;Blondes preferred, rdquo; because brunettes, red heads, baldies will just see it as a sign to not bother. Also, if you have a preferred body type, be shrewd about it. Don rsquo;t say ldquo;No fatties, rdquo; or something. In fact, don rsquo;t mention the word fat at all. Synonyms are your best buddy. Just try not to be a jerk about it.
Contacting them first:
Word count is God. No one line messages, no walls of text.
USE SPELLCHECK! Seriously, looking like you rsquo;re in kindergarten will get you nowhere, which means text-speak is 100% NO!
You obviously looked at their profile, so find something in it to talk about. People love talking about themselves. Pay attention to things like their favourite album, or movie, what sort of music they listen to. Do they go out? Do they like to dance? Pick a couple of things, and make a conversation. It rsquo;s just like talking face to face, minus the sweating palms and nervous shaking. Try to choose something not many other people would.
Be light hearted. Crack some witty jokes, so long as they don rsquo;t make fun of stuff, because you rsquo;ll look like a mook. Laughter is a turn on.
Avoid sexual innuendo like the plague.
Don rsquo;t get heavy. If you have money troubles, or can rsquo;t get a boner, don rsquo;t mention it, it rsquo;s flirting, not a pity party. Save it for your therapist. If you have kids, mention it at some point, but going on about it is just irritating.
Always make sure to leave the message open ended, give them something to ask back.
Don rsquo;t mention exes, or your past sexual history. Just……….. Ew……..
Like the look of someone, but their profile is terrible? Leave it alone.
Just want a booty call? They have sites for that.
It helps to have a picture. Don rsquo;t take a posed one. Look relaxed, laughing is best, and NO MYSPACE STYLE PHOTOS.
It rsquo;s a numbers game.
Always look up what people say about a site before you join. Some are known to scam, and some are full of people you genuinely don rsquo;t want to know.
It helps to research the other side!
Weekly Advice: How to cope with stress when you rsquo;re in and out of a relationship.
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