Image: graur codrin / FreeDigitalPhotos.netThere you are, flirting with that girl, and you’re striking up a conversation. You’re spouting out slick lines from some book you read or some website you visited and you think you’re untouchable. She’s smiling, she’s laughing, and she knows where this is going. You’re not there to make any deep, meaningful connection. You’re just there to get laid. And then, after ten previous slaps in the face and drinks to the chest, she agrees to go with you for a night of dirty, sex making. So why did you go through all those other failed attempts? Why do you keep coming back despite all the rejection? Because you have motivation, and getting it on is one of them.
Of course, that’s not the only reason people keep pursuing men and women, there’s also the relationship aspect of it. Love is just such a huge factor into why people keep looking. They are willing to go through so much abuse, so much pain, so much heartache just to be loved. I’m not saying that’s healthy, I’m just saying, it’s such a factor into the kind of things we would go through for just a taste of that feeling. And the funny thing is, if you look at movies, music, books, and tv, you’ll notice that a lot of the plot point and a lot of the story revolve around that connection we make with people. That bonding we have with other people. And it’s REALY specific. It’s all about that love.
Then of course there’s the “boring” stuff, like personal growth, a better life, and all that to motivate us to be better people. For video games, it’s the interaction with other people, sharing a story line, or feeling better about yourself when you can gank someone all by yourself or merc someone with precise accuracy. We all know this, but what happens when the motivation is gone? How do you cope with things you need to do when you have nothing to keep you going?
I look at this blog and podcast, and I laugh. I don’t get much response from the listeners or readers, I don’t get much feedback but yet I come back to it every week. Of course, I know how many people download and listen, I know how many people who read. HAHA! I have…none of your information, just statistics. Thank you readers and listeners! For some though, that might not be enough. They need that interaction, those e-mails, those calls to feel important. And yes, we’ve gotten some response, and it’s greatly appreciated and we actually like these people. We get to know these people on a more personal level, and thta’s awesome. But for some, again, need more.
I know people are single not by choice, but because they gave up. Which I guess is a choice, so maybe they are single by choice. But they stop finding someone to love because they have nothing motivating them to move forward. They’ve been disappointed so often and they’ve had too many “failures” (it’s not a failure, it’ just a lack of real connection), that they stop. Some might find that sad, or pathetic, but it’s not. It’s a choice. If they’re happier, they’re happier. More and more people are finding that they are unsuccessful in relationships for a reason, whether it’s settling or simply jumping in too quickly, they find that they like the freedom. Okay, not to say that you’re no longer “free” when you are with someone. You get what I mean, right?
But don’t give up if you’ve lost your motivation. Even I, who has lost some of his motivation, continue to do these things because I still love doing the blog and the podcast. But for some reason, my motivations are missing. My desire to keep doing it has waned. Maybe it’s because I’ve done it for a year, or maybe it’s because things have evolved so much that I don’t know how much I recognize. Or maybe it’s because my other motivations are getting in the way. Whatever the reasoning is, I’ll find it again soon. So everyone out there, doing things just for the sake of doing it, stop. Don’t waste your time, if you haven’t chosen your motivation. If you haven’t decided why you’re doing it, then don’t do it. Wait until your find your reasons, find that drive, and when you do, you’ll kick ass and chew bubble gum…even if you’re all out of gum.
