Okay, nothing too thought out too today, but I was re-introduced to the Ladder Theory yesterday, sorry Christy, I forgot, then remembered your talking about the Ladder Theory. I’ll leave a link after this brief post so you can read it. But in a nutshell, its how men and women place people they’re interested in on a ladder. For men, its a single ladder where women are ranked by how much they want to sleep with them, with the top rung being the most desire while the bottom rung is where the women whom a guy would only have sex with if completely drunk. For the women, there are two ladders. The “real” ladder, which is similar to the male ladder and the friend’s ladder. There are a ton of well thought out mechanics and whatnot, and for the most part I feel that the guy has a good theory on his hands, but again, its only a theory its not a law.
You can argue with the ladder theory all you want. Sex is what a guy wants, and despite what people think, sex is what a girl wants in addition to all the other stuff. But if you stick to thinking in the way of theories like these, you miss out on the bigger picture. No one can sum up how we find someone hot or attractive. A person’s looks are objective, and some of us have a desire to be with someone that other people may not find as hot as we do. Its all in the mind of the beholder. What we find attractive and why we pursue is so complex, that I think we let the Ladder Theory and Tom Lykis to blind us and we follow those ideas blindly.
What bothers me about this theory is in its simplicity. Yes, in the most basic form we determine who we want to be with based on whether or not we want to have sex with them. Its biology, in a way, we can’t help how we think about people in that way. But it lacks a maturity that I think can defeat some of the purpose of the ladder. Though I agree with its principles, it fails to factor in morals we grew up with, cultural differences, different goals in life. It does touch on religion and how that plays with the ladder, but again, I’ll let you read it for yourself. Its a freakin’ novel!
Anyway, its a good theory, I think a lot of is kind of true and can be applied to real life. But the moment we limit ourselves to someone else’s theory on how WE should determine who we want is the moment we cheat ourselves. But, man…the guy writes a really compelling point, I can see why people want to stick with it.
