I guess you really can’t escape the past, especially when you live near it. I was on the way today to meet up with some friends at Disneyland. I go so often, I might as well live there. And there I see him, the guy who was allegedly with my ex. I just saw him driving along the freeway to the area where my ex lives, so I can only assume. But I won’t, I won’t speculate, but it did bring up a lot of negative feelings. It took a lot to repress the feelings that haunt me from this whole ordeal, and seeing him only made the start of my day horrible. So what can I do?
Honestly, I can only say deal with it. When you live in the area of where your ex and the men she cheated on you with…(is that grammatically correct?), all you can do is face the feeling head on. Unless you move away to some other state, or country, you’re going to have to face your demons. And its going to be hard. I know it was hard for me, and it was on my mind most of the morning. Luckily, once I met up with my friends, it all went away and I just enjoyed my day. An inadvertent way of turning lemons into lemonade.
That’s the hardest part about unsuccessful relationships, the baggage sometimes remains even if you end it on good terms. Unfortunately, that’s few and far between, and relationships ending badly is usually the best case scenario. Its rare to get two adults to end things on good terms. Usually one or both act like children and its much uglier than it needs to be.
It takes strength and a little courage to stand up to those things that cause us pain. So, while sometimes the past haunts us, and it definitely is scary, its time to face up to those fears, or at least try to. Because you can’t run from those ghosts forever. Somehow, someway…they catch up.
