First off, I am once again left to reassess what this blog is all about. Simply because I’ve read so many other people’s blogs, which are much more personal, filled with ideas not just about relationships but about humor and movies, and tv and all that good stuff. So, I may or may not change the way this blog works.
Now, onto what I wanted to write about. Lately I’ve been making a lot of friends in and around the internet. Many of them women, and I am fortunate to chat with them or e-mail them and just keep that kind of correspondence. I didn’t start it, they started it, wanting to talk to me, which is a boost to the ego for sure. But what I realized from all of this is something that I think a lot of people who talk on the internet face. Separating reality from what’s the internet.
I don’t have a problem with that, but I know I did in the past when I used to meet people online and then hook up with them in reality. It was a different world before Facebook and Twitter and eHarmony. People met through chat rooms, and you never knew who you were going to meet. I think there weren’t as many predators out there either, it was mostly a bunch of people just trying to socialize, and I guess, hook up.
Nowadays, with the internet so tightly wound into our lives, its almost hard to see reality past the fantasy. We think that the attention we’re getting from a girl may lead to something more. Especially for the younger generation. They think that the woman who’s got his undivided attention is someone they can love, that they can date, even if they’re a whole country away. Its kind of scary how many guys out there who are so desperate for love, find themselves in this farce.
I think if you’ve been following my blog or the podcast, you probably had that feeling too. You’re an internet person, savvy and knowledgeable of how to talk to people online. You go to websites specifically meant for chatting and socializing, and sometimes, when there’s a woman who’s the center of attention, you feel like they have nothing but text for you. It happens, its weird to say, but if you think about it, that’s how our world works now.
Not to say people still don’t meat in person, but…anyway, just keep a weathered eye on the prize gentlemen. Women are as narcissistic as we are. They love attention, and many don’t intend to give anything back. Its easy get lost in the fantasy of what could be, but you really need to focus on what is. Unless you met through a dating site and not a social networking site, then its all just a play of egos. No that there’s anything wrong with that.
