If you looked at me, and you knew my situation, you’d label me easily as single. I don’t mind that because its true, but its amazing how we often label people in relationsihps pretty much in two different ways. They’re either single or with someone (which encompasses dating, marriage, sleeping around, whatever, you have someone in your life you’re being intimate in some way, shape or form). I on the other hand, am ready to step out of being single and ready to enter into the dating world. I’m ready to go out in person or online, and actually meet someone. But, my problem and probably many people’s problems is that, I’m lazy.
Having done dating, having been in relationships and having said so myself, the whole dating scene is a lot of work. You have to be able to go out, to put your best foot forward, to be able to hold conversations and to be able to flirt. The thing is, the amount of effort you put in reaps equal rewards. Of course if you put time and effort into dating you’ll be able to find someone to date, to get into a relationship with, to sleep with. Obviously, a lot of benefits for actually doing something. So what do you do if you’re like me, where you want to seek out relationships but don’t want to put in any work?
First off, if you don’t get your ass off the couch, you’re not going to get anywhere. Again, that’s pretty obvious, but that’s actually not what I’m suggesting. As I said, the dating scene requires that you actually go about asking someone out, complimenting them, impressing them. What if you did none of those things? What if you just went about your business? Would someone go after you, be interested in you, just being you? Without hiding your faults, without trying to impress, just being plain, old, everyday you.
I wouldn’t be surprised if some people thought that would be dumb to do, especially if you’re trying to get into a relationship. You want to be able to woo, to “make” them fall in love with you or whatever. My last relationship, I openly pursued I did much for her to fall for me, but that was me being someone I wasn’t. What if all my faults and all my habits were laid out on the table from the very beginning?
So this is my new experiment. Its been said that one finds someone worthwhile when they are not looking. Thus I’m going to just try to be myself with all my skeletons in front of anyone and everyone. Its a horrible metaphorical hook to catch metaphorical fish, but its worth a shot. Which reminds me, I need to talk about age and dating too. Heh, anyway, this is me and my random thoughts.
