I’ve never experienced this personally, but I think it’s possible…well, not necessarily for me. It’s a problem that people who are looking for a relationship, or are single hope they find themselves in. Or maybe not, because it’s a pretty weird problem. You find yourself attracted and interested in more than one person, and for some strange, out of this world reason, those people are attracted and interested in you back. Now maybe you’re thinking, what the hell could be the problem? You know what the problem is? You can’t have them all, and in a perfect world, they all can have you. If only we could take a note from Big Love, and just have all these ladies, and for you ladies, all these men all to yourself. What a problem that would be.
Image: graur codrin / FreeDigitalPhotos.netWhat do you do and how do you choose? How does one person take precedent over another? Sure, maybe you’re attracted to one over the other, but is it worth insulting/breaking the heart of/alienating the other(s)? And how do you know you two will work out better than another pairing, will you lose your chance? Again, problems that seem big, but problems I think people would not mind having. The love life of a young adult, hell, even a teenager, is meant to be complicated and tumultuous. You’re still discovering yourself, what you want, and what would make for a good relationship. But as you get older this problem…becomes way more complicated.
I think we all reach that age, for some it’s younger, other’s it’s older, where we want to be with one person and just screw the rest. We’re ready to get married, to stay with a single woman for the rest of our lives, and just give a huge middle finger to dating. We don’t want to go through all the drama and turmoil of having to go back out into the dating scene, or to have to even look for someone else. It’s easier when you’re younger, when you can make a bunch of mistakes and can do long distance or special circumstances. But I think we all get to that point where it’s just obnoxious.
But this is a problem I wish I had. I’d love to be in a position where I have to have to choose which one I want to be with, which one I want to date, which one I want to have the potential to be a mate, a lover, a whatever. That’s such an ego boost, to know that you’re personality (I’d never think looks, haha) was so great that people wanted you. Is that an adolescent way of thinking?
Now of course, I’m thinking from a man’s point of view. How often would this really happen to a guy? Unless they’re incredibly good looking, I doubt it happens very much. For women…well, that’s just another day. I’ve mentioned time and again, when it comes to the dating scene, women have it easy, and I appreciate that more and more everyday. I don’t know how I could handle it if I was in their shoes and I had women going after me in droves. (I emphasize again, this has never happened to me.) I know I’ll never be that guy, but the more I see it in women, the more I want to throw it out there from the guy’s perspective.
I also think it’s much more delicate if it was the guy all women were after, because women are more competitive than guys. Not to say guy’s aren’t competitive, but guy’s are welling to wait in that line. They’re willing to wait in the wings to see what happens with whoever was up, see how they fail, fix their strategy, and if they hook up with the same girl, do things differently. For many women, there’s revenge, there’s plots to sabotage the relationship, there’s evil intent. And this, I believe, remains throughout their lifespan. I mean, women can be vicious if they feel they need to be. Many women are territorial and possessive, and this is with not only love, but family, friends, even fashion. This is not the hard and fast rule for all women, I’m not generalizing it to ALL women, but it happens a lot.
So what should a man do not to break the delicate cycle? Should he just be flattered that a bunch of women are into him, and just kind of play the field? Is this all just a bunch of BS, and it’s not really a problem, just a matter of finding who best fits your wants and needs with the possibility of losing your other…possibilities?
Post in the comments your own stories or answers to any of my questions or if you have any questions of your own. Have you ever experienced this? What advice do you have to give for those who are going through it? What can you do to make this kind of problem happen for men? Is this even a real problem?
