Many times we picture our ideal soul mate with traits that compliment our own. We give ourselves guidelines and we provide ourselves with limits so that we don’t end up getting our heart broken. Call it our own little security system for the heart. And then, someone comes along, and totally tears that all apart. Everything you say you’d never do, you do. Everything you tell yourself you’ll never feel, you feel. With that kind of power, how can one deny that love exists?
Image: piyaphantawong / FreeDigitalPhotos.netI think that people often confuse love with lust and infatuation. It’s the physical attraction, that desire to be near someone because they’re hot and they probably feel amazing pressed up against you. But when you meet someone who’s emotional, mental, and sense of humor matches yours and then some, then it becomes a little more complicated. That’s when we look past the looks, or it they’re still hot, we find it makes them even hotter, and love/admiration/companionship can bloom.
That’s what’s so funny about our hearts. We often don’t see it coming and we often don’t know it’s there until it hits us in the gut. Genuinely liking someone for who they are no matter where they are or what they’re doing. And yes, we must like someone in order to love them. Anyone who thinks otherwise is just infatuated or in lust. But love develops from liking someone, enjoying their company and trying to spend as much time with them as possible.
And that’s where we lie to ourselves. We say things all the time about how we want to be in a relationship. We talk often of how we wish to be treated and how we wish to be approached. But that’s a controlled environment, a situation where you think you have the power to manipulate the situation. But often the heart wants what the heart wants, and we break our rules. We do things we say we never do, and isn’t that just how it is? Do as I say, not as I do?
Our actions always speak louder than words. We can tell someone we’ll protect them, and when the time comes, you better be ready to get in front of that bullet. Well, hopefully it won’t be a bullet, more like a fist or something. But you have to be ready to back up your words with actions. And of course, I think when we’re not in love and we’re not in like, we can spout anything we want. It is our ideal, it is our perfect situation. We can say whatever the hell we want because we’re not actually in the think of things. We’re not actually in a relationship.
And I am saying this not because it’s a bad thing, but because it’s an amazing thing. That’s the power of attraction, the power of love like. It transcends our own limitations. It pushes us past our boundaries. We do things we normally wouldn’t do if we weren’t in love. I think that’s amazing. The power we allow one person to have over us. To change our lifestyle, our ideals, our very natures because the heart wants it.
Now maybe you’re thinking that isn’t us. We aren’t ourselves if this happens. What happened to always being yourself and staying true to who you are. Well then tell me, did you make a conscious choice to change or did you find yourself doing so without even noticing it? Is it because you want to spend more time with someone? Whatever your reasoning is, if you’re making a choice to NOT be yourself, then stop right there. You’re screwing things up for you and the person you’re with. But if you don’t notice it, if it’s natural, then it’s a part of you. It was something that was ingrained in your from the start. Don’t fight what is already a part of your being.
Maybe I’m contradicting myself, maybe I’m a loon or maybe I know what I’m talking about. I’ll let you decide. Because love is a many spendid thing. Love lifts us up where we belong. All you need is love! That’s right people, I just quoted Moulin Rouge.
