Flirting is a complex and annoying little game that people play. With women having a lot of power, and men having to work incredibly hard, the dating game becomes just a complex maze of cat and mouse. Yes, cats and mice can be mazes, but that’s beside the point. When I am around the ladies, I notice when they give me attention and they smile and laugh at my jokes, and give me a little more attention than they do other men around them. It’s almost like she’s flirting with me, and I have gotten that wonderful smile and those beautiful eyes locked on mine. Those moments can make my heart flutter, and my hopes rise, and then I realize one thing. I’m not special.
Image: photostock / FreeDigitalPhotos.netDon’t get me wrong. That’s not a “woe is me” type thing. It’s just that, women will do that to men all day, every day, and we as guys often fall for it. We’ll be caught up in their attentions, their giggles and their grins and think that they have genuine interest in us. We begin to feel special and we feel a part of something. Now, I can’t think for women, but I’ve been told that women are aware of their flirtations and are aware of their ability to attract and use it to their advantage. Women will playfully interact with the opposite sex either to manipulate or to have fun. And then there are women who “claim” to be oblivious, and are simply doing such actions unknowingly and that they just mean to be friends. I have a tendency to believe that is not the case.
Alas, I am not a woman and really can only speak from what I’ve been told and I’ve been told that women are aware. Which means gentlemen, that when a woman flirts with you, it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re attracted to you. As a matter of fact, I have no idea what the hell it means. But we as men need to be on our guard.
I think it’s safe to say that women are not going to stop their flirtations any time soon. I believe it’s fun for them, it’s entertaining, and again, they get something out of it. We’ve all heard the stories of women getting free drinks and whatnot. As a matter of fact, there was a woman who was using online dating to get free meals every night. I’m not trying to paint women in a bad light, as most ladies are not like this, but there are a few out there that give the rest a bad name.
Having talked with different men, the question is often asked “do you think she likes me?” or something to that effect. We often wonder if women are interested in us, because we’re more often than not, interested in them. We want their attentions, their affections, and their “love”. I think that’s why men often misinterpret the actions of a lady as an advance, and an open invitation to ask them out. I think that’s why women often complain about the wrong men trying to date them, because the woman’s flirtations went a little too far. It happens, and I can appreciate that. As a man who will never believe a woman is interested in him, until she straight up says so, it is high time we educate the guys out there. Most of the time, the woman’s not into you. Not in any way, shape or form. We have to accept this fact!
Which is why dating and the whole act of dating is so tough. Girls are nice people, and are well meaning. Yes they use their beauty and their wiles to get what they want, because I feel they kind of have to. Women are still sometimes not taken as seriously as they should, and I won’t go into a whole diatribe of equality and whatnot, but you get the idea. Anyway, women knowingly use what they’re equipped with, from the breasts to the ass to the eyes to the smile, it’s all one big elaborate plan to maintain control power. It’s all part of the game. And none of this is a bad thing.
So I’m just passing what I’ve noticed about myself and what I noticed about others. Don’t get caught up in the attention, don’t get caught up in that brilliant smile and those sparkling eyes. Keep a cool head, realistic thoughts, and don’t jump to conclusions. If she’s truly interested in you, she’ll pursue you, she’ll find you, and she’ll make SURE you know she wants you. Not just some passing flirtations, but an actual sign, and I think the ladies out there will at least agree to THAT part of this little monologue. What are your thoughts? Do you men think the ladies are into you off the bat due to their attention? Am I missing something? Share your thoughts.
