You hear it all the time about how people meet in the most unlikely of places. “Oh, if my oven never broke, I would never have met my husband!” Maybe you hear “I saved her from the tenth floor of a collapsing building, and I haven’t been able to get rid of her since.” Those are fantastic stories, and I am pretty sure those are genuine relationships, but unless we set up our own elaborate ways of meeting people, we’re probably going to have to do it the old fashioned way.
Image: imagerymajestic / FreeDigitalPhotos.net (I have to interject…I feel like there’s a reason why this woman is single…)Dating becomes a matter of opportunity, which is probably why people often hook up at school or at work. You see the same people there every day, five days a week, and you build relationships, and you see pecks, and you see cleavage, and you rub each other’s shoulders in a friendly manner, and then one thing leads to another. It’s not everyday you meet someone who tells you that she looks at you and then known immediately that you are date worthy material. That relationship did not last more than a few months, but it was one hell of a few months.
So you have work, college/school, and the internet as your swiss army knife of love. But what if none of those work? I know there are some desperate people out there who’ve tried all sorts of methods. Well, with all this talk about relationships and ways to date and hook, up why don’t you just stay single? What’s the problem with just being a single guy or girl? Why do you need a relationship? Do you feel you’re going to fall apart if you don’t have someone romantic in your life?
I know I was there shortly after my divorce. It was the first time in seven years I didn’t have someone in my life, who I knew would be there when I got home and wanted me to be there when I got home. I was desperate to find another person to replace her that instead of making at least friends, I totally turned off and shunned away women left and right. That’s sad. I was a sad, sad man. It was sad. Who wants to be sad?
There’s something amazing about being in a relationship, there’s no doubt about it. I just don’t understand people who can’t stand being single and alone for awhile. Your friends are still there you know, people will still flirt with you and people will try to go out with you. What’s so scary about being alone for awhile. You learn so much, you grow so much, and you learn not to NEED other people. So when you get yourself into a relationship again, you can live your own life without fear or need of your girl or guy. It’s like freedom IN a relationship. Crazy concept hellip;and yet feels incomplete.
Just leave the single people alone, friends and family who think you’re helping. There’s nothing wrong with them. They’re happy being able to sleep with anyone they want, or no one at all. (Okay, that last part I find hard to believe, even though I said it. Sometimes we just need the sex!)
However you slice it, though, I continue to be surprised how much distaste there is for the single person. It’s expected from all sides for you to be in a relationship. With a nerd, sometimes all we need are our games, our comics, our movies, or our television shows. For many, it doesn’t take much to be happy.
Single by choice is awesome, nothing is wrong with them, and maybe they’re just tired of the whole dating scene. Dating is hard, it’s annoying, and it’s trial and error. Of course the rewards are amazing, you get a girl or guy and you get to be all intimate and share things and do things together. But for some, that’s just not enough. Being single comes with freedom, with choice, and with consideration for just yourself. Can’t say that’s bad.
Okay, I’m done ranting. Dating is tough, but with great rewards, single is easy, but you are alone (which isn’t a bad thing). Pick your poison, but stop caring that your friends or your family aren’t dating. Let it happen on it’s own, because I’m pretty sure your pestering isn’t helping matters.
