We all have those games on our phones. The Angry Fowl, the Cutting of the Rope, and the Drawing of the Something, and we play it to pass the time, to make a wait at the doctor’s office or DMV go by a little faster, and they all (for the most part) have something in common. When you pause the game, you get an option. Continue, Redo, or Quit, or something to that effect, in every game. Video games of all sorts have those options, and who knew that we can kind of relate those things to our boyfriend or girlfriend, our husbands and our wives. We do something wrong, we can either keep going with it, ask for a redo, or just leave the whole thing all together. I love how simple that is, and yeah I get that’s an oversimplification of the complexities of relationships, but isn’t it nice to see relationships oversimplified sometimes?
Free images from FreeDigitalPhotos.netI’ve never been in an on and off relationship, but I’ve known people who have. Every week they would go through the same ole routine: be in love, have an argument, break up, and then get back together again. I can only imagine that the make up sex was so awesome, that they broke up just so they can have that. And maybe you don’t know anyone who’s like this, but the concept of the multiple break up is so popular that it makes it’s way to TV and movies all the time. The only thing they exaggerate is idea that at one point in the story, the two star crossed lovers find the error of their ways and get back together and stay together, for good. The whole, “I can’t be apart from them. I need them to function normally, etc…sex…filler…hug…slap…cry, sex, happy ending.” . In what I liked to loosely call “the real world”, I’ve seen that it either becomes an endless cycle that leads to a slew of bad relationships, or after one or two break ups, the couple realizes the game they’re playing and move on to more long term loves of their lives.
When I was watching my friend go through this, I was more concerned and silghtly amused, than anything. Sure there was an obvious problem, and sure we, as his friends, were pulling our hair out trying to show him what a bad idea this was, but no matter how much reasoning and how many times we said she’s no good for him, he’d go right back into her arms and into her bed. That’s when we knew we had to butt out of it and hope he’d eventually get over her. Well, he ends up marrying her and having kids with her, and the rest is history. Whether he’s happy or still married now is a mystery, but hopefully it all worked out great in the end.
In every good relationship there’s going to be fights and arguments, and the occasional angry biting. And amongst all the emotion, tears, and saliva there’s a point where what we can stands, we can’t stands no more. Thus, in a flurry of irrational emotion, we break up with that person we love so much. We’re rash, we do things without thinking, and we have to live with the consequences…or do we? *dun dun DUN!*
The game of golf has this rule called a mulligan where you get a second chance to do a move over again. I think we should all be allowed to have that in pretty much every aspect of our lives. We should be able to have a do over at least, once, at most twice, (because more then that and you may just have a problem), and the third time you’re out. Because I think it’s healthy to determine the rules of life and relationships off of the rules of baseball. So in the case of a break up, you’re allowed to make that over emotional, off the cuff, not thoroughly thought out move of breaking up after a fight. But if you do it twice…the other person better be wary, and if it happens a third time, you need to move on because there’s something not right. But after once or twice, you can learn from it, I would hope and work out whatever the issues happen to be. Also, as bad as a break up is, the getting back together can be fantastic.
And there have been pretty creative ways people undo their “mistake”, luckily all of them involving sex at some point. And I think it’s great if you can be creative and really show how sorry you are for just passionately breaking up with someone without really reasoning it out. Mistakes happen, and I don’t think we should pay for the rest of our lives, something we did because all the wrong circumstances fell into place. From my understanding, my own research, and just life in general, a single break up mistake shouldn’t ruin a relationship forever. We think with our hearts more than our heads, and I believe it’s good to know what you’ll lose out on when you do such an irrational break up. It gives you a peek into how important or how interested you really are in the relationship, hopefully.
