Dani the Universe and Francis talk all sorts of love, sex, and relationships as we navigate the dating world, parents, and flirting. But first….
Listener e-mail:
Open relationships do not have to be about “desperate times” as you described it. Nor are they a sign somebody can’t commit to a single relationship.
For the poly/open people I know, they just don’t put the limits on love that monogamists do. Polyamory, for instance, is based on the principle that you can love more than one person at a time.
Even in monogamous relationships this is true if you look at it closely. When a couple has a baby, they are adding a new person to their relationship. Obviously, there is no sexual connection to that relationship, but there is most certainly committed love.
Do parents love each other any less once a baby has arrived? No, often times it builds an even stronger bond between them. When they have a second child, do they love the first child any less? No. Are they any less committed to the happiness and well being of the first child? Again, no.
So the difference between Monogamy and Polyamory is only about sex, not love or commitment. More to the point, it’s about you controlling what sex your significant other can have.
Personally, I am happy about anything that brings pleasure to my girlfriend. I don’t feel the need to control her.
A real relationship is built on a lot more than sex.
-Slacker
From there we talk about the oddities of sex with people who text during sex, attractiveness and date-ability. Why women are insecure, men cynical, and what makes a person date-able? Dani’s miracle cure in meeting the parents! GAH! Women who are cryptic, and aren’t straight forward.
LINKS:
http://mashable.com/2010/05/05/texting-during-sex/
GLR Tip of the week: How to chat it up.
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