Well, you all survived another year. Its a time of resolutions, a time of doing things differently, its like the new year offers a clean slate. Almost. This year, we have a brand new Geek Love Radio coming to you, with the return of Dave the Drummer. He, Lisa, and I will be doing the show on a regular basis and it will be coming to you every Monday. Of course, like every new thing, there are bumps in the road, and this is no exception. As I edit the show as we speak, I find that well…Dave and Lisa sound fine, and pitch perfect, I on the other hand am distorted and sound like…well, I’ll fix that.
Anyway, despite that fact, since I can’t post it today due to some…post production recording I’ll have to do. I promise, it’ll sound flawless…? Hehe, maybe not. So instead I bring to you an article that comes from Live Science, and is featured on the show, so you’ll hear it from the perspective of Lisa and Dave. But, there was a study done by Brigham Young University that followed the first marriages of over 2,000 people, and tried to find out whether the time sex happened in a relationship determined the longevity of a marriage or a relationship.
Now, I’ve always been a proponent to sex before marriage. I think that sex is an important part of a relationship when building that intimacy as well as that comfort with one another. If you can’t be comfortable in bed, how can you be comfortable out of it? So, I was and wasn’t surprised by the results of the study. I was surprised that sex after marriage led to a more committed and longer relationship. It almost combats my idea of knowing if you’re sexually compatible before making that leap to commitment, but I’m also not surprised that the longer you wait, like six months into the relationship, the more likely the relationship will last longer.
I think it was six months before I had any sexual relations with my last relationship, and it lasted 7 years. And I’ve know people now, who jump into sex fairly early in the relationship and it falls apart almost immediately. With sex comes a lot of mixed emotions and early false feelings that come with the passion of love making. Yes, I said love making, and there’s little to no development of trust, communication and whether or not you two are really compatible. I mean, think about it. If you jump in the sack with someone and you know little to nothing about them, it becomes all about the sex. You’re in a relationship with that person because it feels good, but only physically.
You mistake passion for intimacy, desire for compatibility, and the whole thing will just blow up in your face. So, take the time to get to know who you’re with, don’t just jump into bed together. Figure out if you guys can even stand each other for more than five minutes, and have more in common then that fact that it feels good when you two are wrapped up in each others arms and then some. If you’re looking for something lasting more than a couple weeks or a few months, take the time to actually know each other. Sex will always be there, and it will probably be better if its with someone you can actually stand for more than a few minutes. I’m not saying you have to wait until marriage, but wait a few months, and if you’re bold, six months to a year, and see where that takes you. You’ll find that if you like each other without the sex, you’ll love each other with it.
