Written by Dani:
Unreciprocated feelings. That’s what I wanna talk about. Sit down, children, and shut up and listen. Dani’s talking now.
You know that shit feeling you get when you have the hots for someone and they either A. designate you to the friend zone or B. couldn’t give less of a shit? Of course you do. Everyone does. And as much as we all absolutely love playing victim, it’s really nothing you can do much about. Most of the time we point and blame the person who refuses to feel the same way we do but that’s not fair, is it?
Let me pose to you a scenario and you tell me who I should feel sorry for:
Image: Ambro / FreeDigitalPhotos.netAn unattractive, moderately overweight girl with the social graces of a retarded bison has the hots for the school quarterback. The former spends her days with her nose buried in comics and the latter enjoys reading Tolstoy. One has less than interesting things to say while the other is eloquent and educated.
And the bastard doesn’t like her back. What a prick, right?
Now if you have half a brain stem you’d realize this chick is trying to pitch way above her average and should probably lower her standards. I mean, hey, the dude may just be that awesome and decide to give her a shot… but are you gonna really be surprised if he doesn’t?
No one’s obligated to respond the way you’d like them to. Liking someone doesn’t automatically mean they have to feel the same way. I don’t know if many people realize this small truth and it’s almost pathetic that I’ve found a need to mention this at all.
If I can offer good conversation, good sex and a good relationship… why would I settle for someone who can’t offer the same in return?
No one owes you anything once you vocalize your feelings for them (or in most cases, write in your secret diary about said feelings and never mention anything but still be surprised when your unrequited love goes unnoticed. Yes these people exist). So maybe you should focus less on “Oh poor me, the shallow bitch won’t give me a second glance” and take a step back and look at your own damn self. Why should she? Not sure if you got the memo, Casanova, but a guy who uses his item level to impress women isn’t exactly catch of the day.
Yes, sometimes people simply are shallow and refuse to date someone because they aren’t a perfect 10. OR… they don’t want to waste their time on a man-child who lives with his mom and spends more money on action figures than soap. But they still have the gall to play victim and use the “Why doesn’t she like me” card. Well, gee, I fucking wonder.
As mean as this might sound, oh faceless reader, maybe you’re just not worth being liked back. You can try and move on (and be foreveralone) or you can fix yourself, but don’t blame the person who knows what he or she wants and doesn’t see it in you. They don’t owe you anything and feelings aren’t always meant to be a 2-way street. If you want people to see you at your best you need to actually, I don’t know, be at your best maybe. Get the fuck on a treadmill, put down the pepsi, go read a book and stop whining. Maybe then the hot dude across the bar will see something worthwhile about you.
