We’re closing in on that time of year that people either hate, or love, no pun intended. For the guy’s it’s a mad dash to find the perfect gift that shows off romance, affection, and doesn’t break the bank. For the women, it’s time to give her guy some loving, that he usually get’s on his birthday and this day. Yep, it’s time to celebrate the patron saint of flowers, cards, and extravagant gifts, St. Valentine! With only a week of gift giving left before the day you prove you finally love your girl, because I really don’t think there’s a guy out there who really cares about this day, there’s one idea that people seem to forget is a great gift. Of course, this is under the impression that the girl you’re dating or married too isn’t a golddigging…errr…lady, this will be a good idea. And ladies, what should you give your man? Really, do we, men, want anything more than some really fantastic sex on this day? Maybe even some new orifiaces or positions to play with? Just saying.
Image: Pixomar / FreeDigitalPhotos.netOkay people, this gift idea is gender agnostic, but it all starts with tihs concept. We often say actions speak louder than words in the world of love, and in this Valentine’s Day, maybe you should combine the two. Many women I talk to say that it really isn’t the chocolate and flowers that they love as a gift, it’s the effort and time and thought put into it. Anyone can buy a box of chocolate and a dozen roses and call it a day. To really show you love someone you have to be paying attention. Hell, if you remotely like someone we as people usually listen like hawks for those little hints. Well, some of us do anyway, and that’s something we need to learn. We have to develop those listening skills and it’s really important to do so. Why? Because it can save your relationship.
But we’re talking about a gift here, and when you listen intently enough, you’ll know exactly what will get her heart a beating. I was going to say juices flowing, but yeah…that can happen too. But what you need to do is first listen, find out what it is that she secretly desires, and this takes a lot of work. It’s not easy because some people can be subtle, others can be enigmatic, and yet others just don’t share anything. So what do you do then? Well you figure out, to the best of your abilities what physical thing she wants and suppliment it with the super gift. The thing that will really show you care.
Write something to her. Don’t give in and buy a card, or a balloon or something and think that’s enough. Use your chicken scratch penmanship, or your incredibly slanted cursive and write out a letter of love. Put in your thoughts and feelings, and face it guys, we’re emotional beings no matter how tough we try to be. Write them out, put some effort into it and make it look nice. Write a song, a poem, or just plain tell her what you like about her. Don’t make it about you, make it about this woman you’re so in love with. Sounds simple right? Well, we’re not done. After you write that letter, and seal it in that envelope, you taker her out.
Make it intimate, and again simple. If you have the money, of course take her to that fancy restaurant, on a hot balloon ride over the country, or in that private gondola ride through Venice, but if you’re of simple means in this ever “meh” economy, then make it simple. I rarely hear anyone going to those look out points in the movies that overlook a city, or by a lake, or in the middle of a foresty park. And ladies, if you want to something for your boyfriend, why not partake in some of his interests, maybe even make his next round of Modern Warfare a little more fun with some naked dancing and rubbing and of course…sex.
Anyway, back to the going out. Much like the card, I believe she’ll appreciate it more if you put effort into it. Now ladies, if I’m wrong about this, please correct me, but if you put effort into going out or even staying in and making it a romantic dinner at home, be sure that YOU make the meal. Don’t buy stuff, make stuff. Or at least if you’re going to buy stuff, hide the boxes and be ready to have expectations as she’ll think you can make a kick ass meal. And I realize much of this sounds obvious, but if it was, it would be the norm.
This is really just the tip of the iceberg of what you can do. If she’s into movies, you can make a romantic setting somewhere with candles and flowers, and whatnot, and set up an intimate viewing for two outdoors, indoors or between doors. Again, the key word is intimate, the key word is effort, and the key word is listening. If you can put all those three together in some creative way to do something fantastic for your love, then I can’t imagine something she’d appreciate more. And if she doesn’t? Well, I think it’s time to get out of the relationship because she’s high maintenance.
Take these ideas, don’t forget to check Google, because I bet you can search from some pretty creative ideas, and don’t hate on the guy’s who do extravagant gifts for their girlfriends. Learn from them, take notes, and if you really want to show you care, put some work into it. Oh, one last thing. Don’t overdue it on your first run through, otherwise you have to keep making the next one bigger and better than the last, and then what? Whew, I know I’ve made that mistake. Anyway, happy writing, happy planning, and happy Valentine’s Day.
